August 26, 2011

Bride Failure?

There are (increasingly more frequent) moments when I feel like a complete failure of a bride. It seems to me that I should be much more excited about this wedding than I am really feeling, and that brings on pangs of guilt. Don't get me wrong, I am looking forward to this wedding, but I am much more excited about the actual marriage part than the day of the wedding itself. And is that really so bad?

When I am not busy feeling guilty, I spend a lot of time going into mental fits of rage over the ridiculousness of the colossal costs that weddings apparently entail. Especially in Boston. It seems impossible to get married in this city without paying for it with an arm, a leg, and your first born child. I mean, of course it's not impossible - we could just go to city hall and sign some papers, but that's not exactly what we are envisioning for our wedding. And I don't think our vision is so outrageous that we should go into debt to afford it. And yet... we are getting quotes from caterers that start at $120 per person!!! Not including alcohol!!! I don't even care if that is considered "normal" by Boston standards, that definitely does not sound right to me. What are they serving for that price, gold-studded filet mignon???

I think a wedding is a wonderful opportunity to get together with our closest friends and family and celebrate something as meaningful as a marriage. But I find it difficult to comprehend why such gatherings should cost so much money.